I don't recall the first time I heard someone say to me, "Well, maybe you don't get along because you are too alike." I do remember thinking they were crazy because how could I not get along with someone who I had a lot in common with?
This is what I later came to realize. We may not get along with those who we have a lot in common with, because the parts we have in common are the bad "parts". We all have those bad parts. Okay, well they are not actual bad parts, but they are the parts of ourselves that we wish were not there. Our annoying habits, our compulsive behaviors, our short tempers, whatever we name them to be, we call them bad. When we are around people who just annoy us to the depths of our being, I've later discovered that it's because their personalities remind me too much of my bad parts.
to be continued
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I often don't get along with my parents and I've always wondered why. I remember reading that because my parents and I share very similar DNA we subsequently have many personality similarities. This causes both frustration and happiness in my life because often my parents and I will clash. My brother and mother are the worst because they are the most similar in my family. They do the same things such as walking away and turning their back during an argument. It's funny to watch them because whenever you point it out they fervently disagree but the fact that they are both so alike makes for a lot of conflict. Maybe it's because of the fact that they see their own problems manifested in the other but for whatever reason it seems they can never get along. This same idea applies to dating. Women and men both seek out partners that have many opposite characteristics than they do. Many happily married couples for more than 40 years say that some of their initial attraction was the differences that they shared. The most important role in their relationship was the communication between them. Even on the scientific level a partner with different genes makes for a more interesting and faithful relationship than a partner with similar genes.
That is deefinitley something to think about. Why do we so called not get along with people who are like us? Is it because the bad parts? or maybe even the fact that they are stealing about of us that makes us us? Just something else to think about. As well though you don't get along with people who are extremely different. There has to be a balance is what it comes down to I think.
i guess that's why people say opposite attracts! but at the same time, maybe that's why people don't get along with their siblings.. o-o
I like people that are not like me. but this entry has me thinking about the people I haven't liked, do I not like them because they remind me of myself...?
It is really strange to hear such a thing being said isn't it?
I think you're right though about two bad habits multiplying to create an even larger one. In the world of relationships, two negatives unfortunately don't make a positive.
Another idea may be that while the two people are very much so alike, they aren't perfectly alike. They may have the same ideas about a topic, but when the other doesn't have the exact same idea, they may conflict.
People are alike, but they aren't perfectly like, no matter how your DNA is transcribed.
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